You Shouldn’t Read This
We all wish we could go back in time. There have been songs written about it, we talk about it in our conversations, we all have regrets and reminiscence.
I will always remember my college days. It was a great time of fun, freedom, pranks, and friends, but it’s a scenario that will never again line up the same way in my lifetime.
We all have things we wish we could have done differently or wished we had known beforehand to make it more memorable.
But you know what? It may not have mattered. Are you a restless person? Are you always wishing the moment you are in currently would just get on with itself? Then you may be at risk…
Have you found yourself not quite satisfied with your memories or wishing you had more time in the moment to make them better before they passed before your eyes? We all have, but sadly, most times it doesn’t matter how much we would have known.
You see, our greatest memories will never be as great IN the moment as they are AFTER the moment. Nostalgia causes euphoria. We love to look back and wonder “what if…” or “if I had just…” but in the moment we were wishing it would just hurry up and move on.
I look back at college and think, “Oh man, I wish I could hang out with all those guys again and I remember all the great talks we had and I wish I could do that again.” But sadly, I can’t.
When I -and just about everyone else- was in college, we were constantly saying, “I can’t wait until I can FINALLY graduate! I wish this year would just be over! I am sick of this place and these people! I just want to get a job and get on with my life!!”
Sound familiar? On a much greater level, have you lost a loved one and you look back and say, “I wish I would’ve had more time with them” or “ If I had just known we only had X amount of time left I would have done things differently”?
We always wish we could have that moment back, but even if we were informed of the allotted time we had with someone or the allotted time before it was going to change again, we STILL wouldn’t be satisfied IN the moment because we HATE change.
We are a complex enigma as a human race. We are impatient and are looking for new ways to do something else, try something different, be something else only to have said moment shift and we find ourselves looking back and wishing we could have that old moment back because the grass wasn’t as green on this side as we thought it was. And so we say we wish things could have just stayed the same and wished we could go back…thus doing the thing we actually hate…change.
We are complex in that we always live in fear and worry. We have fear of the unknown, fear of change, worry about what’s on the horizon for us or those around us or for our society. We lose ourselves in that fear and worry and we work to march ahead and “fix” and try new things, which is great and is how we are wired.
But in the process, we have not stopped to appreciate the moment we are in currently. And I don’t think we EVER will or can. We just aren’t made like that. We are always working for the next greatest thing and so therefore, the moment we are in is just a stepping stone or a means to an end until the next moment, which we will eventually treat like the previous moment, and so on.
BUT, we can stop and give thanks, even in the bad moments in our life. I know, I know, that’s very difficult to do. I read a scripture recently that grabbed my attention and made me think about this differently. Here it is. Romans 1:20-21:
“For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities-his eternal power and divine nature-have been clearly seen…so that people are without excuse.”
God’s invisible qualities, his power is all around us clearly and we have no excuse not to see it. But then verse 21 goes on to say this:
“For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave him thanks, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened.”
We have no excuse to not give thanks to God, the reminders are all around us. I have no excuse to not stop in the middle of the moment and say thank you to God for the time I have to sit next to my wife and just watch a movie, or thank you for the time I have with my family, or thank you for the job you have and for being able to provide for your family even if it is stressful.
But verse 21 caught me. We can know God, but when we don’t give him thanks, our hearts grow darkened and our thinking grows futile, unappreciative and unaware of the precious moments that pass us by undetected, longing for them to return.
We can never fully appreciate a moment until it’s gone. Even if we were told how much time we had left before the change would come, we still wouldn’t be content knowing change was coming. We still would question why this change would have to happen at all.
So what can we do? We can stop, give thanks to God for all the things that are going on around us both visible and invisible and be thankful for the smallest pleasures in life. It says we should have no excuse not to see His power and divine nature all around us. The moments may change around us, but He will not.
We can stop and say, “Thank you God for my health, I don’t know how much longer I’ll have it” or “Thank you God for this time I can enjoy with my family, even if only for a few moments because I don’t know how long it will last and I’ll wish I could have this moment back.”
Change will come in every season and every facet of life. There’s nothing we can do. EVERYTHING will change at some point in life. We can be euphoric over our nostalgia of the past, but we’ve probably already missed out on some precious moments in our present while we’re thinking about the past.
What if we soaked in the moments we normally skip over? -the ones that seem trivial and meaningless? We can stop and give thanks to God for what we DO have and not what we WISH we had or wish would happen.
I worry about our generation. It seems we get so busy we miss the moments that are the glue that holds together and sustains the greatest times of our lives. We fail to realize how important they were. So stop and give thanks for everything you can, otherwise we might lull ourselves into a state of “a darkened heart.”
It’s easy to do. I’ve done it and still do.
So don’t let your busy schedule make you miss out on what you are truly blessed with. Matter of fact, you should probably get off your computer, phone, tablet, or whatever you’re reading this on and go cherish the moments and blessings you have right under your nose.
You need to go. Now. Pfffft…yep, seriously. Go. Now. Welp, see you just missed something you’ll wished you'd had back. Seriously, stop reading this.